30 things I’ve learned at 30 years old 🧁⭐️🥳

On August 14, 2025 I turned 30 years old. The last 10 years of my life have been so transformative and I have been blessed with so many learning opportunities. Here are 30 of my most valuable lessons and things that I aligned with in my twenties.

1.     Everyone I admire & look up to has experienced and conquered some kind of hardship in their life. That is why I admire them.

2.     Confidence doesn’t come from being, it comes from doing.

3.     The quality of your life is directly reflected in the quality of your relationships. Respect everyone. Don’t be an asshole.

4.     Don’t pray for something you aren’t willing to create yourself.

5.     Magick & miracles are created in the preparation. We often see the final product of a person getting their degree, buying a house, standing at the altar, running a successful business. But what we don’t see is the hustle & sacrifice that brought them to that point.

6.     I will always pay good money for expertise – I hire the best accountants, lawyers, contractors, mentors, medical practitioners. If you want something done right & done well, hire the right person and pay them their worth.

7.     Getting married to the right person is the most important decision you will make in your life. I’m grateful I chose a strong, centred, funny, and hard-working man.

8.  Understanding your hair’s porosity and how to care for it will make haircare & styling 100x easier. 

9.     Asking myself “how can I serve _____ today?” (myself, my businesses, my husband, friends, family, community) is my favourite question to ask.

10.  Being a conscientious & hard-working person is the most important thing you can be in life. You’ll always be surrounded by good people, be paid well, and feel accomplished by living in integrity. Also, nobody likes or trusts lazy people.

11.  Your lineage is your greatest asset. Without lineage, you have no foundation, no code of ethics, no path to follow. My Macedonian Family lineage and Spiritual King Salomon lineage are my compasses in life.

12.  Laughter is the greatest exorcism.

13.  Just because it feels good, doesn’t mean it is good for you.

14.  How you speak about others is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.

15.  When discerning if you should commit to something (career, romantic relationship, financial goal, hobbies, business idea, etc.,), ask yourself if you’re willing to commit to it for 10 years. If the answer is no, do not invest much energy into it. All of my greatest achievements took 5-10 years to manifest.

16.  Always dress well & look your best, even when no one is looking.

17.  To Know God is to Know Thyself.

18.  A good life is an orderly life.

19.  Define what is important to you, and always invest in those core values.

20.  Just because you are busy, doesn’t mean you are being productive.

21.  The best things I spent money on in my 20s was: my home, my spiritual studies, a gym membership, organic food, my chiropractor; massage therapist; dentist; & naturopath, a Patagonia jacket, and my automatic espresso machine.

22.  “If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen,” is bad advice. If you want something, do whatever it takes to get it done. Be disciplined and forge a good life.

23.  Home is where your family/tribe is.

24.  I cherish & savor every time I hug someone I love. Almost 10 years later and I still wish I could get one more squeeze from my late Baba Lilly. 

25.  I will never say no to a trip to London, England.

26.  It is sometimes necessary to lose a battle in order to win a war.

27.  When things get tough, a good workout, dance party, or a warm shower are a good way to clear the mind.

28.  If you want to be productive, do the hardest thing first. Everything else after that will come easy.

29.  Creating a life that you love doesn’t mean you won’t have bad or hard days. Those hard days are just easier to get through because you believe in what you are fighting for.  

30.  I’m blessed to say that I love myself. Not just as some fluffy self-love affirmation in the mirror exercise, but I genuinely know and love myself and the woman I created in my twenties.

Thank you for listening. Did any of these lessons align with you? Did you learn something new?

I am so excited to see what this next century brings me 🎈

With love,

Steph Wosik