Happy mom, happy baby – why mom’s energy is the most important to protect
I’ll never claim to be a professional at motherhood, at least not for a very long time, but if there’s one lesson that I’ve learned, okay have had smack me in the face, repetitively, is that when I am in a good place, my baby is as well.
Essentially: happy mom, happy children.
This lesson started 18 years ago when I was a child. My parents had a lot going on in their work life, they were the middle of a big project when a team member had left the company. To say they were stressed was an understatement. I was in grade 8, and I genuinely was getting sick with stomach bugs and indigestion repetitively. I missed a lot of that school year because I was so unwell, and yet there was no explanation for it. However, once those work projects cleared up for my parents, I also returned to normal and could go into grade 9 with vigour and excitement.
The same trend happened when my daughter was born. I’ve only been a mom for ~9 months, but I’ve seen it happen repetitively where my daughter will pick up on my emotions and stress before I can even identify it myself. On the flip side of this coin, she is a very happy & healthy baby because she has a happy and balanced mom 90% of the time.
I’m nervous for someone to come for a visit? She gets cranky and won’t sleep the night prior. I don’t like how something was handled? She fusses extra hard with my husband when I’m in the shower. I’m stressed about getting her down for a nap on time so we can make it to her doctor’s appointment? Guess who refuses to nap.
I’ve even seen it happen with my husband. If he is stressed, our daughter will also pick up on his emotions when he is nearby. Babies and young children that cannot communicate verbally are especially psychic and communicate in other ways. They need their parents to be regulated, calm, and in control. Babies also co-regulate with their parents and who they feel safe with, so if you are not regulated, your baby will not be regulated either.
Now, motherhood and parenthood aren’t easy jobs. No day is perfect or predictable, and you’re always learning on the spot… so for a type-A person like myself, how do you not get stressed out? It’s easier said than done, but in my motherhood toolkit, I have:
Meditation; even if it’s for 5-10 minutes opening my chakras while rocking my daughter to sleep for her first nap.
Movement; going for walks and runs when baby naps, at-home Pilates workouts on youtube (Pilates by Izzy OMGGGG the burn!!!!), etc.,
Hermetic Soul Retrieval; a healing session that brings parts of your soul back into alignment. This is so important after giving birth when you are postpartum and feel like you are plugged into one hundred different radio stations of thoughts and emotions. (I, and any other certified Healer from The Modern Mystery School can do this session for you if you are interested).
Prayer / Intentions; sitting in prayer and writing down your intentions and prayers for the day is essential to holding the right space and energy for the day. You get to dictate what kind of energy you hold. Although not traditional or formal, I tend to do this while breastfeeding my daughter. No dogma here!
Beauty; doing my beauty routines and rituals (incl. skincare and makeup) elevate my essence. Also dressing nicely and finding comfortable and beautiful clothing that is nursing-friendly (if you’re nursing) is very important!
This is only what is in my motherhood toolkit, and I highly recommend you incorporate some of these into your own toolkit, and you find a toolkit that works for you. Sometimes, trial and error can work best at finding things that actually serve you, and they may only serve you in a certain season. So changing up your toolkit as you progress through parenthood is also important.
Regardless, it’s important to pay attention to how you are operating as a mom/parent, and what energy you are bringing to yourself and your family. Your children and spouse will most definitely be feeding off of the energy you provide. Women specifically are the containers and the boundary, so what you hold is what the family operates with. Do your best to be a clean vessel as much as possible. And when you get knocked off your centre, which will happen, use your toolbox to get back to centre and cleanse your container. And if you’re a dad or husband reading this blog post, mom needs to feel safe and taken care of. She will not be able to nurture you back if she doesn’t have safety.
Don’t know how to make your wife feel safe? Simply ask her.
Consistently practicing this purification and alignment process as a mom will help you in so many other areas of your life as well. It’s all an alchemical dance that you are always modifying and improving as you go through life, especially parenthood.
From one parent to another, you got this! And you’re probably doing better than you give yourself credit for.
With love,
Stephanie Wosik
